Ask Miss Advice Girl Today!


Freaking out about a crush problem? Family trouble? Major drama in school? No worries! I’m here to help! Tell me what’s up and I’ll give you the best advice I can. Send your question to askmissadvicegirl@gmail.com or ask in the comments section. I’ll try to answer a couple every week.

– Miss Advice Girl

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When You Want To Be Popular


Today’s question comes from Lulu, who writes:

Hi, I really wanna be popular at my school, but I’m scared to talk to the ‘cool’ kids. I’ve talked to some of them and they seem really nice! I don’t wanna be popular for bad reasons, I want to because I don’t wanna be another face in the yearbook. I also just wanna make new friends
Thanks! Lulu

My Advice:

Hi Lulu! Don’t be afraid talk to the “cool” kids, they’re only your peers. Show them your confident, keep a good posture, and keep your head held high! To start, try making new friends and saying hello to everyone in the hallways. It will take time before you become popular, so always be kind to others. Each day, talk a little with the “cool” kids. Start the coversation with a simple “Hi, what’s up?” and then the rest will flow easily. When you do become popular, be careful of your choice of words, be honest, and treat others equally. This will totally take time so be paitent.

I hope this helps! If you have any more questions, email me!

Yours Truly,

Miss Advice Girl

Middle School Nausea


Today’s question comes from L.E., who writes: 

I’m going to be in 6th grade in the 2014-2015 school year. I’m stressing out about is the classes I’m going to take for music. There’s choir, instrumental (in three categories: band, jazz, or orchestra), and combo (choir and instrumental, for one of those categories). And for those who aren’t going to do choir nor instrumental, there’s general music and library reasearch (which I DO NOT LIKE AT ALL). I’m still deciding if I should do band, jazz, or orchestra, and I want you guys to decide. Should I take band, jazz, or orchestra?

I want school to start soon (where I start, the first day is August 25). I’m practically bored OUT OF MY MIND every second of the day, every minute of an hour. I’ve been watching YouTube videos about Back to school, surviving it, and all that. I love school SO MUCH. I’ve been keeping myself busy so time will be really fast when, finally, it’s August. Two weeks before school starts, we go shopping for supplies (backpacks, lunch boxes, you know… all THAT stuff), although we don’t do it all in ONE DAY. Then, the week after that, I have to sort my supplies, trying to figure out how to organize the things in my backpack. To think of it… I might need to buy things for my locker, so I can have it organized, as I’m a neat and clean freak. I also need to figure out my daily schedule.Yes, where I live, they switched the middle school start and end times with the high school start and end times, which I now start school at 8:00am and end at 3:00pm. Also, we’re going to share the buses with charter school kids, but it will only be in the afternoon. So I have seven hours of school and elementary school kids have six. Do you have anything to help me about? Any tips? Advice? Anything?
My Advice:

Okay, I am really sorry this is SUPER late. Maybe this will help you for 7th and 8th grade. I’m not exactly sure what advice you are looking for, however middle school is different for everyone. Your school might have a certain schedule that other schools don’t have. If you’re looking for tips on surviving school academically, follow your schedule and get your assignments in when they are due. Also, I would suggest instead of using a huge planner (if your school gives you one), use a small planner and maybe carry a small notebook for quick notes that you need to write down when your in a hurry. If you’re looking for tips on how to survive school socially, stay with your friends and be you. Don’t be afraid to be who you are and don’t let others tell yu that you can’t do something.  If you are looking for tips on organizing yourself, make sure you have a huge planner at home and only take the small one to school. Use the huge planner for writing down what you are doing that week. It will keep you organized. Also, if you have trouble doing homework in the afternoon, make a little calendar of what you have to do after school.
Hope this helps! Again, sorry I’m very late on replying to this. If you have any other questions, just ask me!
Yours Truly,
Miss Advice Girl

Clingy Friend


This question comes from Chocolate Monster, who writes:

I have this friend but she’s so clingy. She thinks I am her best friend and gets jealous if I go with another friend. I want to tell her that I do not want her to think I’m her best friend because I have this super sweet best friend called Natasha. How can I tell her in a kind way??

My Advice:

Hi Chocolate Monster! This must be very hard. I suggest you explain to her that you can have more than one BFF. I have many BFFs but the ones that I am really close to, I call them BFFAE or Best Friend Forever And Ever. Show her that you like her as a good friend but you would like a little space. Hopefully, she’ll understand and everything will be fine. I think she will understand quite well. If it doesn’t work out, I suggest you let her know that she can’t be the one that is on the top of your best friend list. Your friends aren’t even on the top of the list since you know they are all equally your friends.

I hope this works, and, of course, you know what to do if it doesn’t work and you need help again! Just tell me!

As Always,

Miss Advice Girl

When You Can’t Get Enough Sleep


This question comes from Ariya, who writes:

For the past two weeks, it’s been taking me a while to sleep.     And when I wake up, it’s too early and I end getting about 8 or 7 hours of sleep. What should I do?

My Advice:

Hi Ariya! I used to have this problem. If you take about an hour to fall asleep, then go to the doctor to get permission to take a pill that will help relax you to fall asleep. It helped me and now it takes me 5-10 minutes to fall asleep.

I still have a problem when I get up too. Have you ever felt like you had to go to the bathroom when you wake up? If you do, then you have solved your waking up problem. Just go to the bathroom and get back in you warm bed. Get cozy and fall asleep again.

Also, just a quick reminder:

If you’re a child (1-9) you should get about 11 to 13 hours of sleep. Tweens (10-12) should get about 9 to 10 hours of sleep. Teens and adults (13 and up) should get about 7-9 hours of sleep.

Hope this helped! If it didn’t, let me know and maybe I can try to help you better.

As Always,

Miss Advice Girl

When You’re Going Out With Your Crush


This question comes from Katierose133, who writes:

Dear Miss Advice Girl,

My crush asked me out and I said yes. But we’re trying to keep it a secret, so we can’t ask for any advice on what you actually do when you go out with someone. And neither of us are allowed to go out anywhere either! What shall we do?

My Advice:

Hi Katierose133! To answer you on what you do on a date, you can do many things. Go to the park and just hang out together, a romantic candlelight dinner, studying together for a test, etc. Since you can’t go out, you can do two things:

1. Have your date come to your house or if he can’t, then use a video chat like Skype and pretend to have a date.

2. Ask your mom for a curfew. If you don’t know what this is than ask your parents for a better understanding. It’s a certain time you have to come home from something. When you don’t come back at the right time, you get in trouble. That way, if the time you must come home is 9 than you can have your date till then.

Always find ways to have time for your date. Or else you might lose him!

Have any other questions? Let me know.

Sincerely,

Miss Advice Girl

New Friend


This question comes from Annie, who writes:

Dear Miss Advice Girl,
I just made a new friend at tennis, Claire. She’s really nice and I really want to be good friends, but when I text or talk to her I don’t really know what to say… I want to make a good impression! Also, I want to avoid being clingy and texting her all the time, which is something I do a lot. I know that it’s very annoying!

My Advice:

Hi Annie! You are on the right track! Here are some ways to help you:

1. Write or say a greeting! Always write or say one, remember that this is a conversation! Say something like “Hey Claire! What’s up?”

2. Say what you want to say in your head or on text without sending….then convert it! Writing or saying something big and making it a smaller version is like converting fractions (I know you probably hate fractions!)

3. When your ending the conversation, say some goodbye words! But, don’t just say bye. Say some leading words up to bye like “So I really got to go but I will see you at tennis” or something like that.

Hope this helps! Any other questions? Ask me!

Sincerely,

Miss Advice Girl

When Your Friend Has Something You Want


This question comes from Kayla, who writes:

Dear Miss Advice Girl,

So my “friend” just told me she got a guitar and I got pretty jealous since I’ve wanted one since I was like 6, but I never told her. I asked my mum and she said she might get me one next year, but I seriously can’t wait that long! I have got this electric guitar I got when I was 8 but its kinda like the ones for kids and I want a real guitar (by the way, I don’t really know how to play an electric guitar) I’m starting to think that if I do get a guitar she’s going to say I copied her when I really didn’t. I’m also suddenly thinking that if I do get one she’s not going to be my friend anymore because she’s becoming kind of mean and has become a little bit vain. So basically, how can I deal with jealous? How do I persuade my mum to get me a guitar THIS year? And do you think my friend won’t be my friend anymore if I do get a guitar since she might think I copied her? Please help!

My Advice:

Hi Kayla! This might be very hard for you to hear but you have to learn to get through this. Its called Jealousy Skills. To get through jealousy, you have to practice and to practice you have to learn to get through it by actually having jealousy. Persuading your mom will be hard. Of course, she is your mom and will listen to every word you tell her. You don’t need to persuade, you need to talk to your mom and get your feelings out!

If you somehow do get a guitar, tell your friend you weren’t trying to copy her, you just had always wanted a guitar since you were 6. I bet if you told her this, she would talk to you. She won’t be upset if you tell her the truth. Never lie. You might think lying helps but it just makes things worse. If she is truly your friend, she will understand and maybe even want to jam with you!If you’re desperate to get a guitar, try asking your parents to give you allowance for doing chores each day and soon enough, you might get the amount of money for a guitar.

Let me know if you have any other problems.

Sincerely,

Miss Advice Girl

When Your Friends Say They Are Better Than You


This question comes from Skaterkat, who writes:

Dear Miss Advice Girl,

My friends and I aren’t great together. We fight about what we eat and then one day they told me they said those things because they are better than me. I wanted to tell them that’s not true but when I tried to, nothing came out.

I don’t want to ruin our “friendship”. What should I do?

My Advice:

Hi Skaterkat! This question made me cry! I suggest you talk to an adult first, so you can get those feelings out. Then, tell your friends you don’t want to break your friendship but that there’s no such thing as being better than someone. And that it hurts your feelings. If your nervous, take a few deep breathes before you talk to your friends. If your friends keep saying they are better than you and/or start saying mean things to you, then say “Our friendship is over” and find a new, nice group of friends.

This didn’t work? Let me know!

Sincerely,

Miss Advice Girl